For couples
Money rows are meaning rows
One of you saves to feel safe, the other spends to feel free. Same account, different stories, and the stories come from the houses you grew up in. Sameside starts there — privately — and gives you a shared starting point for your first money meeting.
What the money worksheet asks
What money was like growing up. What you feel when you spend and when you save. What security looks like, concretely. Which money decision you would like to make together. You each answer alone; the coach writes one page for both of you and proposes an agreement: a fortnightly fifteen-minute money meeting with one screen and no blame, and a threshold above which you consult each other.
When money pressure is the backdrop
Tell the coach you are under money pressure and it lowers the bar for everything else: shorter practices, more validation, and no lectures. Financial stress narrows everyone’s patience; the plan is built not to add to it.
What it isn’t
Sameside is not financial advice and does not look at your accounts. It is a coach for the conversation you keep not having.
The research behind this, in two minutes
Money rows are meaning rows
Arguments about spending are usually about security, freedom, fairness or control. Find the meaning and the numbers get easier.
Most of your arguments will never be solved. That’s normal.
About 69% of couple problems are perpetual: differences in personality and needs. The aim is dialogue, not resolution.
The story you told yourself in the car
Distress feeds on attributions: "they did that because they don’t care". Check the story before you react to it.
Questions people ask
Should couples have joint or separate accounts?
There is no right answer. What predicts fewer rows is that the arrangement is explicit and both people feel consulted above an agreed threshold. The worksheet gets you to that agreement.
Can Sameside see our bank accounts?
No. It never connects to your finances. It works with what you tell it, privately.
Other situations
Free to start. Private by design.
Start with twenty minutes, alone. Your personal plan is ready the moment you finish.