A relationship coaching app with a plan, not a chatbot
Most relationship apps are either a daily habit or a chatbot. Sameside is a method: private questions, a written summary, a plan, weekly sessions, measurement, and tools for the moment — with a privacy model no other app has.
The method
The coach reads from a structured knowledge base — Gottman’s research on couples, attachment research, behavioural research on couples, family systems, PREP, Nonviolent Communication and more — selected for your circle. It writes a summary of what it heard, which you can correct, before any plan, and every shared sentence passes a second check for verdicts, labels, off-limits topics and privacy.
The privacy model
Each person has their own login and their own answers. The coach is the only reader. The shared plan never says who said what. Boundaries you mark are checked out of every shared sentence. You can see exactly what the coach can see.
The measurement
The Couples Satisfaction Index, a published four-item relationship satisfaction measure, at the start, every week, and at a checkup. Three points is real change, and the coach lightens the load when a week goes badly.
Built for your situation
Relationship help for new parents
Two-thirds of couples see their relationship dip after a baby. A private coach with a plan you can do at 9pm in ten minutes, and tools for the tired arguments.
Rebuilding trust after it was broken
Atone, attune, attach — in that order. A private coach that paces the work to the person who was hurt, and says plainly when shared work isn’t safe yet.
Long-distance relationship help
Predictability beats spontaneity. A coach that builds rituals of contact, plans the next reunion, and helps with the awkward first hour back together.
ADHD, autism and relationships
A parent–child dynamic creeps in when one partner becomes the reminder. A coach that designs systems and makes the implicit explicit.
Two-minute reads
It’s not you versus me. It’s us versus the pattern.
One reaches, one retreats, and each move makes the other more likely. Naming the cycle is the first step out of it.
The small reaches that decide everything
A bid is any small attempt at connection. Turning towards them is the single best predictor of a relationship that lasts.
Five to one
Stable couples keep about five positive moments for every negative one, even during conflict. Specific appreciation is how you bank them.
Talking so it lands
One person holds the floor, the other paraphrases before replying. Being summarised accurately is most of what feeling heard is.
Questions people ask
Is Sameside an AI?
The coach is AI, working from a research-based knowledge base with guardrails, a deterministic summary and measurement. Sameside is a private check-in tool, not care, and it says so.
What does it cost?
Free to start: the assessment, personal plan, formulation, week one and the toolkit. Plus is £7.99 per person a month — £15.98 for a couple — or £69 once for the eight-week programme.
Free to start. Private by design.
Start with twenty minutes, alone. Your personal plan is ready the moment you finish.