Couples counselling online, without the waiting list
Couples counselling in the UK costs £60–£100 a session, both of you have to go, and there is usually a wait. Most couples who would benefit never start. Sameside is built for them: the structure of counselling, privately, on your own phone, starting tonight.
What you get that counselling gives you
An assessment modelled on the checkup clinicians use. A written formulation — what you came for, the pattern between you, strengths, goals — that you can read and correct. A weekly session: review, the reason behind this week, practices, a guided conversation, a three-minute check-in. Measurement with the Couples Satisfaction Index so you know whether it is working.
What you get that counselling can’t
Help at eleven at night: a cool-down timer, a gentle start-up builder, a repair tool for the aftermath. A private coach chat that remembers you. Worksheets you answer alone and hear together. Team agreements that stay alive between sessions.
What it won’t do
It won’t take sides, diagnose, or tell you whether to stay. It won’t build a joint plan when someone isn’t safe. And it will tell you, kindly, when a counsellor would serve you better — Relate and the BACP directory are one tap away.
Built for your situation
Relationship help for new parents
Two-thirds of couples see their relationship dip after a baby. A private coach with a plan you can do at 9pm in ten minutes, and tools for the tired arguments.
Arguing about housework and the mental load
The noticing, planning and remembering are work. A private worksheet makes the whole load visible, and the coach proposes one handover you can both agree to.
Arguing about money with your partner
Money rows are meaning rows: security, freedom, fairness, control. A private money worksheet, a fifteen-minute money meeting, and a coach that keeps the heat out of it.
Rebuilding trust after it was broken
Atone, attune, attach — in that order. A private coach that paces the work to the person who was hurt, and says plainly when shared work isn’t safe yet.
Two-minute reads
It’s not you versus me. It’s us versus the pattern.
One reaches, one retreats, and each move makes the other more likely. Naming the cycle is the first step out of it.
The four habits that predict a split, and their antidotes
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Everyone does them sometimes. Each has a learnable replacement.
Why you can’t think straight mid-argument
When your heart rate passes about 100 beats a minute, the part of you that listens goes offline. A twenty-minute break is a repair, not a retreat.
The joke, the touch, the "can we start again?"
Repair attempts are anything that stops an argument escalating. The ones that land depend on the friendship underneath.
Questions people ask
How much is couples counselling in the UK?
Typically £60–£100 a session, about £75 on average. Weekly for a year is roughly £3,900. Sameside is £15.98 a month for both of you — or £69 once for the eight-week programme — with a free assessment and first week.
Is online relationship coaching effective?
A 2024 randomised study found the Gottman Seven Principles programme equally effective online and in person, and the online OurRelationship programme has several trials showing improved satisfaction. Sameside draws on both.
Does my partner have to join?
No. You get a full personal plan from your own answers. The shared plan needs both of you.
Free to start. Private by design.
Start with twenty minutes, alone. Your personal plan is ready the moment you finish.